There was this comprehensive framework which I’ve put together about 4 years back on making New Year Resolutions. It was all encompassing but like any framework or system which aims to be comprehensive, they are often too complicated to be sustainable. I think I didn’t complete a single resolution on one of the years that follow.
In the beginning of this year, I was determined to to get everything to work. I try to simplify the way I look at it and I think it worked! I’m proud that I’ve completed 11.5 out of 13 goals this year. I’ve also added on 3 stretched goals for myself, completing 2 out of 3 of it. It’s a slugfest but I thought it worked out.
As I headed to a hermitage to onder on life again this year, drew from past experiences, drew from new knowledge such as HARD goals, this is now what I think will work and make it sustain.
Sustainable is the key.
(1) Select Goals to Cover All Aspects
I still feel strongly that we should make goals from all of these aspects as they help to fuel each other to help you accomplish all the goals.
We need not categorise the goal though. One single goal can be crafted to cover multiple aspects at the same time.
- Spiritual: Goals that contributes directly to what you want in life
- Mental: Always learning something new and keep your mind alive and healthy
- Social/Emotional: Things that can build up characters such as empathy, service and intrinsic security
- Physical (and Emotional) Well-being: The essence of life and energy to run your goals
- Financial: Money is always needed to help ease you through some of the harder to reach goals like it or not
(2) Write Heartfelt Reasons for Each Goal
All goals made must have a strong heartfelt reason written down. It is written down so that we won’t lose sight of why we are after that goal in the first place.
Not sure about you but sometimes I will lose sight of why I am after something working on it for too long. This helps me stay focus.
(3) Select a Way to Sustain until the Goal is Accomplished
I believe there are two basic ways we can engage a goal:
- Habit-based: Work the goal into a routine that we can do daily or weekly. Once it is a habit, it becomes easy to sustain. Reinvent the habit if it gets too monotonous.
- Project-based: Spend solid hours preferably no longer than two to three months working on the project. If it is, break it into smaller bits. Once we are done, we can relax and do something else.
And then we can mix and match! For my physical well being goal for 2018, as a project, I intend to craft a workout. Once I have that, I can set the workout as a habit and do it as a routine. I will also intersperse with mini projects such as completing a half-marathon and let’s see if I can get Gold for my final (hopefully) Individual Proficiency Physical Fitness test.
(4) Do it with Someone if Possible
From a famous African proverb, “If you want to go fast, go alone. if you want to go far, go together.” Is there someone who you can share and accomplish the goal together with?
I also welcome the opportunity to form stronger bonds with my friends.
(5) It is OK to Refine and Redefine – Enjoy the Journey!
The perfectionist in me is really hard-up on completing my goals. It is like collecting stars for my report card. Really, I also learnt that it is ok to cut myself some slack. It is OK to refine my plans and redefine my goals if needed.
I’ve learned to look at the journey as an accomplishment too. This means I still need to see progress in me. Sometimes, circumstances change, a goal no longer seem that heartfelt, and it is time to wave goodbye to the goal for now.
And really, resolutions need not be set at the New Year. It can be done anytime. The magic of the New Year Resolution is that it gives me the chance to look at my life holistically at a regular interval.
My New Year Resolutions for 2018 are still not done up even though there’s only 10 hours to go but I have a good idea what I would like to do. Just need to pen it down to make sure my thoughts are crystal clear.
Wishing everyone a Happy 2018 in advanced and may you have a productive and fulfilling year ahead.